I was elated when a friend, who had been emotionally challenged since her divorce, mentioned she had recently met a tall, handsome stranger at a party. She claimed he was a doctor practicing medicine in another state, who was in town for a conference. They ended up spending the weekend together, while he wined and dined her at all the fabulous places. As she recounted all of his wonderful qualities, she was excited at the possibility of a long distance romance. However, when she mentioned his name, my happy for her mood drooped down to zero. The reason for the sudden change in my attitude was that I knew the guy, and I also knew he was not a doctor. If anything, he was a practicing con man, who had previously told another female acquaintance that he was a lawyer, when she met him. Unfortunately, he had offered to help her with a legal matter and ended up disappearing with a hefty retainer fee in his pocket. In other words, he didn’t have a good name.
My grandmother used to say that all a person has is their name, and that it is vitally important to strive to have good associated with that name, because in the long run it can cost you dearly if you don’t. I know this to be true, because in many stages of my life, I’ve witnessed the value of having a good name, and the penalties that life sometimes imposes when one does not have a good record, which translates to one’s reputation.
In my matchmaking days, I once tried to introduce a lonesome gorgeous friend to a handsome business associate, and she was extremely excited and looking forward to the introduction. That is, until I mentioned his name. Her grin was instantly replaced with a frown, as she described a previous unsavory date encounter with him that she would never forget. She stated that on their first date together, after he took her to dinner at her favorite restaurant, he stuck her with the bill. He claimed he left his wallet at home, and that he would reimburse her the next day. But she never heard from him again. I was shocked, because I knew him to be the epitome of gentleman-like behavior, and I would have never imagined him to be anything less. When I later mentioned her reaction to a mutual friend, she related a similar experience with him several years before. Ironically, when she later told a cousin about her ordeal with him, she too knew someone who had been out with him, and referred to him as a “horror date.”
Unfortunately, this guy probably had no idea that he had developed such an unsavory reputation, because most people seldom consider the smallness of this world we live in, and/or the arrows or stars that are automatically attached to our names based on our deeds.
If you sometimes wonder why Favor seems to elude you, or you don’t get the respect you feel you deserve, it could be that maybe you’re not working hard enough to have stars attached to your name. Those who do usually have the following characteristics…They:
**keep their word-
**mean what they say
**are kind to everyone.
**treat everyone the same
**are generous with their smiles
**put forth their best in work and play
**eager to help
**are genuine in word and deed.
**are friendly spirits
**have a good sense of right and wrong
One thing I’ve learned, as I walk the road of this life, a good name can make or break you, and few wish to have a record or reputation that is not associated with the word good. Unfortunately, they are too many who don’t care enough to do their best to have their names mentioned in high regard.